Travel is the ULTIMATE Relationship Test

by | Sep 26, 2015 | Personal Stories

Thinking of tying the knot? Wait. Don’t do it before you travel together. A word of caution: it can make or break your relationship. It will give you a much needed reality check to see if it’s going to work at all. Of course you’ve heard the age old proverb “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”. In the case of your relationship, it can make it rock solid. Here’s why:

See the worst of each other: While on the road, you’re with your partner 24/7 and there’s no way to hide who you really are. You get a glimpse of what is beyond their best side. Traveling puts people out of their comfort zones and brings out the worst in them. Everyone has their own set of peculiarities which can be endearing or downright annoying.  Ask yourself if you can deal with their idiosyncrasies for the rest of your life.

It’s all about Reactions: In most cases, something DOES go wrong while traveling. It could be a bus delay, losing valuables or getting lost in a new country. Notice how your partner reacts in these situations. Are they problem solvers, are they too proud to ask for your help, do they end up making you miserable by whining about the situation or do they just laugh about it and turn it into a big joke? It’s important to figure out the reaction that you can live with.

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Teamwork is the key: Couple Traveling requires teamwork. So does marriage. The responsibilities get divided based on who can do what better. Figure out if you both operate in unison or not. Any successful long term relationship is a result of good teamwork. Being a good team is not just working together but is also supporting each other through thick and thin. If you suck at it the first few times, then let it teach you how to be a better team.

San and I covered in mud after climbing in the rain. Location - Phra Nang Cave Beach in Railay.

San and I covered in mud after climbing in the rain. Location – Phra Nang Cave Beach in Railay.

Space and trust issues: Everyone needs a little space in their relationship; however, not everyone lets their partner have that space. This could be because of trust issues or insecurities. Traveling gives you a sense of what is in store for you concerning space and trust. A few years back, traveling with my potential life partner made me realize that he was never going to let me indulge in a little “me” time. It happened when I decided to pamper myself with a back massage after hours of walking around with a heavy backpack. He barged in during that massage and stood towering over my head all through my “me” time. He later mentioned it was because of a “male” masseur.

Conversations or confrontations: Long conversations are inevitable while traveling and certain unresolved issues have a way of resurfacing. Some matters remain unresolved because they are not addressed and may worsen with time. Traveling provides an opportunity to indulge in such discussions because you’re away from work, free of stress and are in a different surrounding. Every couple fights but is every one of your conversations turning into a confrontation?

Compromise: Even if you have similar interests, traveling will force you to give and take in many situations. From simple things such as agreeing on a restaurant to something as big as how to spend your day – many circumstances demand a compromise. This will give you an idea of what kind of compromises you need to make if you decide to spend a lifetime together. If you learn to compromise, only then you should take your relationship to the next level.

I met my husband while backpacking and we ended up traveling together to many places very early in our relationship. After two failed relationships where traveling together was usually a painful event, this finally felt like the real thing and we decided to tie the knot.  Each of the above points is based on my real experience and I hope you find them useful. Click here to read how we met.

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A hippie travel writer with flowers in her hair, Sonal Kwatra Paladini should have been born in the 1960s! Bitten by the infamous travel bug, she has an itch to explore resort-free destinations, offbeat islands and small villages. Join her and her husband (Sandro) on their journey as they hop from one music festival to another and explore the beautiful world that they are in love with! Follow them on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter.

Sonal Kwatra Paladini

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